Well, this is Thomas, and here I am, starting this blog about my transition. I hope I can be helpful to other people who are transitioning from female to male (and possibly those who are transitioning from male to female). I also hope I can be helpful for those who have loved ones who are transitioning.
I transitioned while I was middle-aged, and it’s been a successful transition. I now live as a man, and I feel more comfortable in my skin and in this world than I have ever felt in my life. Of course, my life is not perfect – but whose is? At least I know I am doing everything in my power to make my life the best life it can be, with the resources I have at my disposal.
In coming posts, I will talk about what it was like to transition, and also what is like living in the world as a man, having previously lived in this very same world as a woman. It is remarkable how different the experience is – reflecting to me very clearly, almost every day, how incredibly deeply sexism still runs in our society.
And now for Something Completely Different …
Interestingly, I also have something quite different I will be talking about in my posts – the experience of being a parent of someone who wants to transition. My youngest child is still a teenager, and just recently announced that they want to transition. This came as a massive shock to me, and I am still getting my head around it. This child has never presented as a classic transgendered child, so I truly did not see it coming. Nor did my ex-wife.
Support Your Transgendered Kids!
Although we are surprised, we are doing the only thing that loving parents can do in this challenging situation: we are rallying to make sure we give our transgendered teenager every possible support we possibly can give. We hope the process will be slow enough for our child to be completely certain that this is the right path. But we will NOT stand in the way. It’s not about us – it is about our child. Young people with gender dysphoria who are not supported have a phenomenally high risk of suicide. We will NOT risk our child’s life, just because that child feels a need to live in a gender that feels more authentic – even if it’s not what we’ve been expecting for our child.
Having a child who wants to transition has been both an enlightening and a humbling experience for me. I am starting to see and understand what it is like for those who GET the announcement, as opposed to being one of those who MAKE the announcement. I now have a whole lot more tolerance for those who don’t understand, and for those who have such enormous difficulty shifting their minds from thinking of me as female to thinking of me as male.
Being the parent of a transgender child is quite different from being the transgendered parent of a child. And it’s not very common for a transgendered parent to have a transgendered child. I told my endocrinologist about it, because he’s good at what he does, and I want my child to have the best – if my child gets to the point of hormonal therapy (which seems extremely likely). My endo is an erudite and charming man, and he calmly made the comment: “Wow, I’ve never had a father-son set of patients – this will be interesting.”
Once again, thanks to my beloved child, my life is giving me the opportunity to look at life from both sides. And I look forward to blogging about it.
I hope this blog will be useful for people who are transitioning, as well as for family members of people who transition. It’s not an easy path. For those of us who must walk it, or those of us who choose to support loved ones who walk this path – all we can do is learn as much as we can, and then walk or support as bravely and strongly as we possibly can.
My Book About Gender Transition from Female to Male
My book is written for the same purpose as this blog – to tell my story in such a way as to provide comfort, enlightenment, knowledge, and support for those who are transgendered, or those who love transgendered people.
To find out more about my book, LOOK inside it, and see the full table of contents,
just click on the Amazon link below …
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