Recently I got a job for no other reason than because I am a man. It was interesting, but it was also pretty awful. This kind of situation can be very challenging for trans men, especially if we only transitioned late in life. Here is my story of how that went for me. As trans men who pass, people sometimes have expectations that we simply cannot meet.
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A Cheap Packing Hack for FTM Men
In this post, I share a cheap packing hack for FTM men that I recently figured out.
The Amazon Prime Day Sale is HERE
The annual Amazon Prime Day Sale is HERE! The good news for online shoppers is that the biggest online sale of the year has started! It’s always the biggest Amazon sale of the year, so it’s well worth spending some time to check it out. And online shopping is discreet, so it is ideal for many of us transmen.
You Better Man up! Meeting Changing Expectations as You Transition Gender from Female to Male
When you start to transition gender, you will most likely have certain ideas about how things will go. You will probably be very excited, and looking forward to all the positive changes in your life. However, there will be changes you don’t expect! For me, the biggest surprise was how people changed in the way they treat me, and how I have had to adjust to these changes. In short, I have been forced to man up! In this post I share my experiences, and offer some tips about how to cope with changing expectations.
Was Transitioning Gender from Female to Male the Right Thing for Me?
Ten years on is a good time to sit back and think about how my life has changed since I started to transition gender from female to male. How has my life changed? Is it better or worse now? Would I do it again if I had to live the same life again? In short, was transitioning gender from female to male the right thing for me to do?
Guide to Designer Stubble for a More Masculine Look for Trans Men
Here is a step-by-step guide plus video to show you how trans men can achieve a more masculine appearance with designer stubble.
A Guide to Shaving for Trans Men
This is a shaving guide plus how-to video for trans men. They explain the tools and techniques of shaving for those who are about to start shaving for the very first time. Are you thinking about starting shaving for the first time in your life? That’s an exciting time! One of the great joys of transitioning gender for many trans men is that we get to start shaving. However, there is one little catch: most of us don’t have a father to teach us how to shave. And while it is not rocket science, it is also important to do it right. This post will help!
A Complete Guide to Chest Binding for Trans Men
Chest binding is done to flatten out the appearance of the chest. A wide range of people practice chest binding, and it is commonly done by trans men who have not had top surgery. If you are a trans man who is considering doing some chest binding and wants to do it safely, then this complete guide to chest binding for trans men is for you! It includes information on kinds of binders, how to measure your chest for a binder, resources for cash-strapped trans men, and important health considerations.
A Guide to Packing Underwear for Transmen and FTMs
Here’s a guide to packing underwear. There are a whole lot of very affordable options out there. Good packing underwear can make your life as a trans man or FTM easier, by ensuring you feel more comfortable about passing. And also by making you feel relaxed and safe, because you know you are not going to be embarrassed by having your packer fall out of your pants!
Why I am a Stealth Trans Man – and Thoughts on Jeff Varner and Zeke Smith
I just watched Jeff Varner outing Zeke Smith as trans on Survivor. No one has the right to out anyone anywhere, any time – let alone on a TV show watched by millions of people. The change that Jeff Varner just made to Smith’s life might turn out all right – and it might be catastrophic. Since transitioning from female to male, I have worked hard on being stealth – that is, I allow people to think that I have always been seen as male by everybody. I never disclose my trans status to anyone. Here are my reasons for this, and how I achieve it. Bottom line – every one has the right to live the way they choose, and NO one has the right to take this away from them.
Buck-OFF Buck Angel FTM Stroker Review – the First Sex Toy Designed especially for Transmen
The Buck-OFF Buck Angel FTM Stroker is the first sex toy designed especially for transmen. I tried it out and found it to be a lot of fun, so here is my review of this interesting new product.
A Guide to Packers For Transmen/FTMs
Here’s a guide plus video for transmen and FTMs about what to look for when you buy a packer. There are a whole lot of very affordable options out there! A good packer can make your life as a trans man or FTM easier, by ensuring you feel more comfortable about passing. A packer is a phallic object worn in the underwear to give the appearance of having a penis. Packers are most often used by transmen/FTMs. Packers can range from a rolled-up sock stuffed down your underpants, to a very expensive medical prosthesis that is attached to the body with surgical glue. And then there are a whole lot in-between, and many choices in the under-one-hundred-dollars zone.
Men at work – Being a Transman at Work
I found it incredibly hard to transition gender from female to male at work. It took me two years to work up the courage, but I finally did it. Everyone was very polite, but I really felt like no one really accepted that my change was a reality. Certainly, many people kept forgetting and using […]
What Makes Us FTM (trans men)?
What Makes Us FTM? There are a variety of theories about what makes us FTM. It’s my belief that it starts in the womb, when the brain is masculinized but the body is feminized, due to a mistake in the sequence of hormonal “baths” that the fetus is exposed to. Interestingly, it has in fact […]
Tips for recovering from a hysterectomy for transmen
Based on my own experience, here are some tips for recovering from a hysterectomy for transmen Hysterectomy is a common FTM gender-confirming surgery. However, it can be a lot harder to recover from than you might expect – even if it is a laparoscopic hysterectomy. Recovering from a hysterectomy also holds special challenges for transmen, […]
When should you tell your partner you are trans?
Wondering when should you tell your partner you are trans? Hi! My name is Jen, and I am the wife of Thomas Underwood. I am a previously straight woman, now married to a trans man. If you are wondering when should you tell your partner you are trans, I offer my opinion here, based on my […]
Tips for FTMs to Prepare for Gender Transition Surgery
My top tips to prepare for FTM gender transition surgery! You can help to ensure the successful outcome of any surgeries you have in your gender transition journey if you prepare for gender transition surgery thoroughly. This post will help to ensure that you are ready with everything you need for a good recovery.
We Trans People Should Not Take Pronouns So Personally!
Pronouns can be a nightmare for people who are transitioning gender! When I first transitioned gender from female to male, most people who knew me kept forgetting to use the correct pronouns (“he” and “him” instead of “she” and “her”). A pronoun is a word that takes the place of a noun, and very often […]
My Child Came Out as Trans and I Did NOT believe Him – Advice for Parents of Trans Children
Recently, my child came out as trans and I did not believe him at first. I didn’t tell him that, and in fact I simply told him that I would support him totally – but secretly, I could not believe it. I just did not believe that the person I had loved for 15 years […]
Testosterone for FTM Transition
Changing gender usually starts with hormone therapy. In the case of FTM transition, testosterone therapy is used to cause masculinization. Once you start testosterone, it will cause dramatic changes in your body and mind. It will even change your face, as you can see in these photos, and in the videos further down in the […]
What is the Politically Correct Way to Talk About Gender Transitioning?
There are many differences in the way people talk about gender transitioning. For example, some people say that FTMs (female to male transsexuals) do not become men, because they always were men (internally). I prefer to see my transition as a process of becoming (externally) the man I was always meant to be – taking […]
Looking at Life From Both Sides – My Blog about Gender Transition from Female to Male
Well, this is Thomas, and here I am, starting this blog about my transition. I hope I can be helpful to other people who are transitioning from female to male (and possibly those who are transitioning from male to female). I also hope I can be helpful for those who have loved ones who are […]
How I Changed my Gender from Female to Male
Deciding to transition gender is likely to be the biggest decision you will ever make in your life. It will change your life irrevocably – and based on research, it will most likely change it for the better. Nevertheless, it is not an easy choice to make. Thomas Underwood has written a book that will […]